Mercy, the full-ground daughter of Eke landed my set like a bulldozer 😅🤣😷.
She left her damns at home, didn’t look at anybody’s face and gave a gbas for every gbos she has gotten from the fans, the blogs and the commenters.
This has been a while coming – ‘I wanted to be ready for you’, I believe she said – and it was worth waiting for.
We talk about all of the drama – how bloggers followed her home for her father’s burial in other to embarrass her, why she thinks Phyna should ignore everyone, how and why she built a friendship with Tacha and lost her friendship with IK. Why she thinks it’s madness to ridicule her beautiful Igbo accent, and why she had to do that teary video after a blog alleged relation with IVD, the husband of her tragically late friend.
But, underneath all that, how did the girl whose mother wanted to abort because she was being ridiculed become the apple of her family’s eyes? What is it about that past that makes success such an overwhelming necessity for her? And having achieved considerable success, why did she tell me she wishes she could die for 4 days?
What I learnt from Her Interview!
Mercy says and she’s talking about relationships in the house and what they call ‘ships’ that the worst part of it is because people believe that these relationships are what the fans want, people believe that these relationships are what the brands want, people think that these relationships are what helped people succeed outside the house, people do all they can to stay inside these relationships.
Sometimes they find themselves performing happiness in these relationships because they believe that’s the perception that people want. She says people are often even performing happiness in their relationships to people who don’t have relationships to speak of in the first place and therein lies a tragedy wrapped inside comedy because essentially many of us are allowing our lives to be dictated by people or allowing people to tell us how to live our lives, people who haven’t figured out how to live theirs.
Many of us are making far-reaching decisions about who to be with, what jobs to take, how to spend our money, and what to buy first when we hit a windfall, because of people that follow us, people that look at us, people that are our peers, people that went to school with us, people that…whatever it is, we want to impress others who haven’t figured their own shit out and so we mess up the things.
We figured out that to impress them is a zero-sum game.
And who wins? Nobody, not the person you’re trying to impress, and not yourself, but who loses? Not them, the only person that loses is the person that doesn’t have strong enough a core to say, “The only person whose opinion truly matters in my own life is me, and the only voice I should follow for the decisions I choose to make for my life should be the best interest of myself”; but too many of us are caught up in this Rat Race, and too many of us are destroying our lives for people whose voices shouldn’t matter in the first place.
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