“I owed my mother my life and so I chose to live with my abuser” – Toyin Falaiye
The silence broke me and also the fact that I lived with my abuser even when the abuse had stopped. This was because I felt I owed my aunt my life and everything I had become since she had no child of her own. She had become frail in health and had high blood pressure – I was the one taking care of her.
Even when the abuse stopped physically, there was the eighteen-year-old ‘spiritual trauma’ where my abuser came for me in my sleep to have sex with me. This went on for eighteen more years. Many people have struggled to believe this because it looks like a lie – But it is my reality. Every dream I’ve ever had for eighteen years was either my abuser trying to push me down a cliff, him chasing me with a cutlass, or having sex with me in my sleep.
How to watch the FULL episode:
- Subscribe on watch.withchude.com to watch the full video.
- Subscribe on listen.withchude.com or Apple Premium to listen to the full podcast.
