Her Childhood Trauma, the Crashing of Her Marriage and Her Choice to Live above it all. — Kafayat ‘Kaffy’ Shafau sits #WithChude
There is no greater gift guests give me than to speak the truth of their own lives.
When people see me and are deeply thankful to me for the show, it’s because of these stories. These gifts of vulnerability, of revelation, of affirmation, of truth. It makes others feel less alone, understood and validated.
Kaffy came in the best of this tradition.
The courage it takes to speak about and to live in this way is rare.
From a horrifically traumatic childhood to a marriage that shifted her core. Kaffy came with the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
About Her Childhood Trauma!
“My parents were battling so much towards the end of their life for me to put that burden on them. I don’t think I needed to do that. I felt that I didn’t want to bring back old wounds. There are some things that you know that the person already knows that I’ve messed up. But are we not going to let them die with that or let them feel the love that is available?”
“You must have messed up, but you’re still daddy. I wish they were still here. I know if they made better decisions, they wouldn’t have died. A lot of circumstances around them that I felt was a burden and I could feel they were suffering from inside and you know the body responds to our mind. The body listens to the mind intercellularly, so if we keep nurturing certain thoughts. It will make you sick inside, and there’s a level that the Doctors can’t help. If you don’t fight for life yourself by just trying to uncover and release yourself from your past mistakes. And I felt that was the battle they were having I can’t add to it.”
What She has to say about Her Marriage!
“I was not educated enough for marriage and a lot of us aren’t. It’s now so easy to get into marriage that’s why it keep crashing”
“It’s easier to get a marriage certificate than drivers license.”
I believe there should be proper mental evaluation for the two parties in the marriage before they decide to damage another life that they are about to bring to life.
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